Grace loves to write commentaries on psycho-cultural and sociocultural dynamics ter their myriad forms.
Who’s Ter , Who’s Out, and Who’s Ter Inbetween
Psychologists, sociologists, and social scientists decry the so-called latest phenomena of mean dame culture. There wasgoed even a 2004 movie called MEAN Ladies which a dame wasgoed very first accepted and subsequently ostracized by a clique at hier schoolgebouw. However, mean damsel culture has existed for decades te junior high and high schools. There wasgoed always a lady pecking order based upon socioeconomic backgrounds, grade status, and the attraction factótum.
Females have always competed against each other from time immemorial. However, this wasgoed never acknowledged by society. Females, especially chicks, have bot characterized spil being docile, gentle, and peaceful. Females were also characterized spil being less confrontational and less argumentative then masculines. Damsels were further inundated that they voorwaarde be “good damsels” and to be pushy and aggressive were unfeminine.
Many women gave way to this industrial womanish stereotype, thus sublimating their aggressive and pushy feelings. Damsels learned that being outwardly aggressive is wrong, however, they use this energy surreptitiously, being aggressive towards each other. determined to be surreptitiously aggressive towards each other. It comes spil a revelation to many people that ladies can be hellions also.
Even however there are mean chicks at the nursery schoolgebouw, guardería, and elementary schoolgebouw levels, the phenomena of the mean doll becomes very prevalent ter the junior high and high schoolgebouw level. I have discovered that the apex of mean girlness is at the junior high schoolgebouw level. At this stage of life, chicks are attempting out different personas and on their way to discovering what type of person they wish to become. Formerly nice ladies are becoming more catty just to getraind te a particular clique and to build up the acceptance of a certain alpha female.
Many alpha women have excellent leadership ladies but they elect to use those abilities negatively. Alpha ladies are usually the head of a particular clique. The word of the alpha doll is law and all the other damsels ter the said group go after hier. The alpha chick thrives on control. She does not believe that the chicks te hier group should express their individuality. A prototype of the alpha female is the character Christy Masters ter ROMY AND MICHELE’S HIGH Schoolgebouw REUNION. Ms. Masters wasgoed the alpha woman ter the A -listed group of cheerleaders. Thesis women were on top of the high schoolgebouw pecking order who periodically derided ladies whom they deemed inferior.
The main objects of their scorn were Romy and Michelle who were near the bottom of the high schoolgebouw pecking order. Ter one toneel when the A-listed group derided Romy and Michelle, one of the cheerleaders attempted to defend the two damsels, however, Ms. Masters talent the cheerleader a glaring look, putting the cheerleader ter hier “place.” Alpha chicks believe that group think is more significant than individuality. Any damsel who elects to be an individual within a clique is often derided and oftentimes ostracized. Spil a result, many damsels who are ter cliques sublimate their true personalities te order to belong.
Many damsels have the status of being the ter betweens. They are neither insiders strafgevangenis are they accomplish outsiders. They are ter pecking order purgatory or corona so to speak. Thesis chicks have a broad diversity of associates and friends, believing ter playing it safe. Thesis women maintain that they are ter the best situation possible. Thesis women also cam be classified spil bystanders regarding the lady pecking order situation. Ter inbetween chicks have different types of associates and friends spil a barrier i.e. ter case one group excludes them, there is always another group. Thesis chicks can be classified spil beta women, however, they are not spil low on the pecking order spil the odd or outsider woman.
Te inbetween chicks can exhibit various types of personalities ter order to gezond within their particular group of the ogenblik. Thesis are the chicks who are most afraid of asserting their individuality because they want to be part of a group. To reiterate, they are te group purgatory. They clearly do not want to be alone for whatever reason so they oftentimes do harmful and/or aggressive things to other damsels to overeenkomstig to their group. Thesis ladies know that they do not have the power that alpha women have. Te inbetween women have secondhand power.
Then there are the damsels at the lowest end of the pecking order. They are usually the odd or outside chick. No one wants them at all not even the te inbetween damsels. Thesis ladies are te hell figuratively. The are reasons for being the odd or outside damsel according to doll group think. Very likely the outside lady is different from the group te terms of socioeconomic status, familial background, academic status. Oftentimes women who reject to go along with the crowd are fairly frequently ostracized within the junior high and high schoolgebouw culture.
Sometimes ter certain cultures, women who are studious and serious are ostracized by their peers. For example, chicks who are not boy crazy and adhere to the media jongere female group think are severely ostracized. I know this firsthand. When I wasgoed te the 7th and 8th grade, the alpha ladies te my schoolgebouw were boy crazy and into romance novels. Thesis ladies wore the shortest miniskirts and the tightest clothing. Many of those chicks began dating ter the 7th grade and they were not into sports.
Academically, an terrific majority of them ranged from B to C-students. They also were physically beautiful and very middle class. I recall one of the chicks stating that they did not want damsels who were “unattractive within their group.” They considered themselves to be the MOST MATURE women around. They considered damsels who played sports to be immature. I recollect one lady indicating that a female wasgoed totally immature because this dame wasgoed into sports and not dating yet. This group considered the female to be at the jardín de infancia level emotionally.
Thesis alpha women had all the boys around them. Albeit this group had two A students, those students were not the leaders but were followers. Let us not digress. The aforementoned outside lady wasgoed an independent female, not a follower. She wasgoed never afraid to express hier difference and hier individuality. She wasgoed excluded from group after group.
Furthermore, this lady wasgoed an extreme beta damsel. She wasgoed ostracized from the time she entered schoolgebouw because she wasgoed different racially and ethnically from the regular schoolgebouw population. Besides being from a different étnico/ethnic background, she wasgoed also one of the poorest students and came from an enormously Duggarish large family. Most of the damsels derided hier, often holding their noses when she walked by. However, she wasgoed never fazed by doll groups making joy of hier. She believed that she wasgoed just spil good spil anyone else.
There are many odd or outside chicks who use their status spil a source of strength. Many odd or outsider damsels learn to be very creative and individualized youthful women. Thesis chicks often have a rich inward world and pursue activities different from that of the other ladies. Many odd or outsider chicks have friends and activities outside of their schoolgebouw. Odd or outsider ladies usually go after their own drummers.
For example, ter my high schoolgebouw, there wasgoed one damsel who wasgoed ostracized because of hier extreme brilliance. She wasgoed never timid ter voicing hier brilliance, furthermore, s
he wasgoed an early feminist. The other students refused to understand hier because she wasgoed the smartest student ter the class. The other students often made joy of hier last name. However, she did not care, often electing to pursue solitary hobbies. She wasgoed a very outstanding artist and a very advanced thinker. During hier high schoolgebouw career, she had very, very few friends, however, she had activities outside the schoolgebouw and a very supportive family.
Many odd or outsider women have supportive family members. The media odd or outside lady is usually finta mature beyond hier years and believe that conforming to the “habitual” female culture is somewhat asinine. This chick believes that she has something better to do. However, there are some odd or outside damsels who are so traumatized about being excluded from the group that they feel spil if they are nonentities. Thesis chicks have little or no self worth and would do ANYTHING, even harmful, stupid, and/or deleterious to be accepted by the group. Some of thesis chicks even commit the ultimate act of suicide because they believe that they are totally unworthy of living and that life is a helluva practice.
There are programs spil to how to remedy the mean lady culture. However, thesis programs are very few and far inbetween. Many parents are either unaware or indifferent to the culture of mean chicks. To many parents, the mean chick culture is just chicks being ladies and a natural part of life.
However, studies vertoning that the proliferation of mean damsels indicates that this is a very serious matter. Articles te THE Fresh YORK TIMES and other magazines clarifies how the culture of mean women adversely influence on our youthful women psychologically ranging from low self-esteem to suicide. Talk voorstelling hosts such spil Tyra Banks and Oprah Winfrey regularly discuss the kwestie of the mean doll culture so this punt should be taken gravely and not to be casually demised spil mere lady’s play.
Parents and teachers voorwaarde be jointly involved to discuss this punt and to institute workable solutions to this ongoing dilemma. Our youthful chicks should feel good about themselves and have a right to develop their human potential to the utmost. Furthermore, youthfull women should have an spil unencumbered childhood and adolescence spil possible.
В© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams