by Kathy Marlor
Te this day and age of technology and limited time, more and more of us who are single, will turn to online dating to attempt to find someone special.
The challenge with online dating is that someone can say anything to lure you in- whether it’s true or not, and may not necessarily be the person te the photos that they posted. You can be virtually anyone online by typing up some clever lines and grabbing some good looking pix to upload.
So how te the world can you be sure who you’re talking to is truly who you think it is? The very first step is to listen to your gut instinct, if something doesn’t seem fairly right- it’s most likely not. From there you may have to waterput on your online investigator hat and do some research. For now, check out the following common warning signs:
Online Dating Warning Sign #1: Their profile is very well written but their communication abilities with you are the pits. Have you everzwijn run across a profile that is professionally written, so much so, that even a member of the grammar police would be proud of it? It says just the right things that you want to hear ter the right places and they vereiste wield the Master’s degree they rechtsvordering to. But… wait a minute… when they communicate with you through IM or text, they use text shorthand, misspell words, improper grammar, etc, and it doesn’t even seem to be the same person. What’s up with that?
It may be that they were just putting their best foot forward ter the written portion of their profile or had it professionally written from a questionnaire they packed out…or they may have copy and pasted it from someone else’s profile and it’s not indeed theirs.
Online Dating Warning Sign #Two: They only want to Instant Message or have a Google phone number to mask their “real number.” Someone who doesn’t want you to truly know who they are may ask you to IM with them on a service like Yahoo. There’s nothing wrong with Instant Messaging to embark, but if they want to IM spil their only form of communication, that should set off a crimson flag. With a “real” email address, you can search and get their IP address to verify their location and make sure it matches where they say they live. You should be able to Google search using their phone number to also verify the location and make sure they are being truthful.
Someone who doesn’t want you to have their “real info” that could be traced to prove their location is very likely up to no good, don’t you think?
Online Dating Warning Sign #Three The person you’re talking with is providing you conflicting stories. There is an old telling “You don’t have to recall the truth.” This means that if you ask someone the same question, you should get the same fair reaction. Recently, someone told mij that they were Catholic, I thought “That’s strange, their profile says Protestant.” It could be that when packing out their profile, they selected the wrong box- but either way that set off my b.s. attent that something may not be fairly right. Keep your ears open and listen to make sure everything seems consistent with their profile and past conversations.
Online Dating Warning Sign #Four The person you’re interested te has given you their name, location and profession, phone number and you can’t validate or verify any of the information. With all the social media sites, business web sites, LinkedIn, Edredón, etc. you would think that you’d be able to find them te at least a few Google search results, wouldn’t you? If someone says they are a successful artist for example, but there is nothing about them online with their name, location and at least a few pix of their work, I would be suspicious. Are their providing you a fake name, location, etc, and why?
Online Dating Warning Sign #Five They want more pix, informatie about you or a web cam talk but don’t have more pix to share, can’t seem to get their web cam to work, lol. When someone is fishing or phishing for more information about you but won’t reciprocate, that’s a warning sign. Sure, they could be a harmless control pervert, or may be gathering all the informatie they can to charm you, win you overheen and then klapper you up for money, or more. If someone wants you to talk via web cam, insist that they do it to, or if they want more informatie or pix of you, ask for the same. After all, if they are fair and legit, fair is fair right?
There are extra warning signs that can come up. Thesis are just a handful of them. Just recall the rule of thumb is if something doesn’t make sense or seem right, it may not be.
If you suspect that someone may be a fake, or may be dishonest there are a few elementary resources you can use to protect yourself from thesis type of people.
Very first, make Google your best friend and search their screen name, IM name, or anything else they give you to voeling them. Check out dating scam web sites and see if they are listed or if their dating pitch sounds awfully acostumbrado to any listed.
2nd, use the Google Photo Search to verify that the pix you’re drooling overheen don’t belong to any
Key te the pic URL or upload a saved photo to help you verify the subject’s identity. You can right click on an photo and copy the photo’s URL code to waterput into the Google Photo Search. Or, what I do, is right click on an photo and Save a Copy of it. Then I click on the Google Picture camera icon and upload it.
Google will terugwedstrijd search engine photos that seem similar of that will match it. If your bombshell you’ve bot speaking to now shows up to have the same face spil a celebrity or other popular person, you’ll know you most likely have an imposter. Voila! (I’ve caught three people using pics that were not of themselves recently using this tool…gotta love it).
Last, merienda you have their email address you can send them an email and if you get one te terugwedstrijd from them you can run it through a IP Address Search engine that you can find online, for free. Search: Get IP address with email and you’ll come up with a multitude of web sites that will permit you to do so or that tell you how to find it within the email that you get from them.
You can also search for any key words they use like their screen name or name they’ve given through web sites like http://stop-scammers.com (for female dating scammers) or http://www.male-scammers.com (for masculine dating scammers).
By taking care to listen to your gut and to do some light private detectiveroman work online, you can help ensure that you’re speaking to the person you think you are, and if not, find out early on so you don’t waste a lotsbestemming of time with them or become a victim of a crime.