I know that this is very likely a question that is asked far too frequently. However, I’ve never indeed bot ter a situation where I’m so confused.
is it ok to ask what happend?
there is a big difference inbetween telling..that T-shirt is ugly. even if its truthful, and omitting significant informatie ter a romantic relationship just to avoid conflict.
For example. If my sister-in-law looks like shit, I’ll not say anything, unless asked.
If I’ve done something, that I know hubby won’t like, not telling is worse then telling. He might be mad at what I’ve done, but he’ll be even more hurt by the hiding of it. (I hope that makes a shred of sense.
I am sorry your dealing with the ache of hurting a friend.
I think you should tell the truth, but be tactful about it.
If you are fair te thought, and then fair or truthful te your deeds, either from talking or doing, then you can not be morally wrong regardless.
if no one asks you for the truth, it’s very likely best not to say anything, because, even if you mean well, this sort of thing coming out of left field can indeed hurt someone else. best to remain silent te cases like that.
Sometimes it is best not to say anything if the truth is going to be hurtful.
It is always best to let the truth out, regardless of feelings or emotions.
Even however I’m someone who pretty much never lies (other than maybe if someone asks mij something I think is too private, so I’ll say, ",I don’t know", or ",I leave behind",), I can’t say I entirely agree with your statement. I very much go by the belief that wij need to be truthful and trustworthy ter relationships, but there are times when not telling absolutely everything can be best. If I think my friend’s hubby is a giant, unbearable, wank, and I can’t stand being around him, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with limiting what I share with hier to something like, ",I seem to be on a different wavelength from Fred, so it can be hard to have a conversation with him.", The fact that Fred makes mij feel like my head is going to explode is my problem, not hers (particularly if she thinks Fred is fine).
I think when it comes to this kleintje of matter ter life, you can’t always stick with rigid rules. You have to go on a case-by-case onderstel, and do what you think is truly right. Rules like ",always be truthful", are good ones to always attempt to go after, but sometimes they conflict with other rules, like ",don’t intentionally hurt someone’s feelings or harm a relationship". Most relationships do need to be built on truth and trust, so I guess the way to overeenkomst with a conflict is to aim not to lie but not necessarily to say everything there is to say (at least at the time). Sometimes, too, HOW someone tells the truth makes a difference.